Lately, I have been having to face my family in our dynamics in a way that I have never thought I would have to before. To have to navigate the reconciliation of members that have been estranged and overcome my own personal issues while God is having His way in all of our lives has been a challenge. Families are built up of a lot of complexities, from unreal expectations to extreme judgment; family relationships are often put through the hardest test while being designed to provide us the many examples of what the life outside of our unit would challenge us with, and instead of appreciating the lessons our family brings to us, we often reject it, and them because the relationship isn't what we want it to be. As individuals, we are who we are and no amount of someone else's influence will ever cause us to change if we reject the notion. If the suggested behavior is not lined up with where we are and we aren't clear on where we are headed, we are only going to drive a wedge in the relationship.
I believe we had no hand in choosing our family line because we would only search for what is comfortable for us. In our search for the right friendships and partnerships, we search for everything opposite to what has been uncomfortable to us in the past, and instead of embracing what helps us to grow and come up higher, we call it toxic and vow to never associate with it ever again, even if it is you mother, brother, sister, cousin. we will cut someone off quickly within the family, but fight to repair a relationship on the outside, because they are all we have. Crew, it's time we put on our gloves and fight for the family. wouldn't it be wonderful to be able to relate to the people you're related to? Over the next few post, we will be dropping deeper F-bombs as we discuss the dysfunctional functionality of this great tribe called family.
I pray that this segment allows you to examine your own relationships in such a way that healing can be provoked and replaced for every area of pain.
Blessings
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